Joys of being a parent to a teenager

So, I have a 16 year old son, who is dating someone, for the first time, that I don't approve of. She's just not a good seed.

Yesterday, while on facebook, I went to her wall, as I often do, and found a post in regards to me.

"Was gonna go to the movies with Nick tmrw but his mom made premade plans to do sumthing else. This is bullshit!" (and yes, that is an EXACT quote)

Now, I've caught her making non-direct comments pertaining to me on her wall before, but I never said anything because, they weren't direct - involving my name. But this time, I felt she went too far. After work, I confronted Nick.

"If you want me to be your scapegoat to one of your friends, that's fine, but at least tell me about it." He didn't know what scapegoat meant, so I had to explain the whole thing to him. So I fill him in on his girlfriends post.

He exclaims, "SHE SAID THAT ABOUT YOU?!"

I tell him, "I don't even know what she is talking about. When I suggested you go bowling with your bff's, I wasn't aware of ANY plans you had with her. I'm being blamed for something I wasn't even aware of. Now, your girlfriend doesn't have to LIKE me, but she WILL respect me."

So, he immediately texts her. Then I think, 'crap, he needs to tell her HE saw the post, or she'll know I check out her posts.' But, the damage was already done.

Nick says, "I just told her if she ever talks about my family like that again, we're done!" I beam for a moment, and feel proud, but then think rationally - I HOPE that's the truth.

Next, he says, "I want to see the post."

Now, he's been forbidden to go on facebook because of his grades, so I log in with my info and as it's loading I say, "I bet you she blocked me, AND deleted the post." Sure enough - she had. So he logs in under his name and she deleted the post. Can I call this girl or what?

About a half hour later I get an email from her with a long apology. What's a mother to do? Nick informs me that when I reply to her I can't tell her that I didn't know they had plans. So, now I have to cover his butt, and take the blame for something I didn't even know? I'm not liking that!

Long story short, I told her I appreciated her email, and accepted her apology and we'll cough it up to a misunderstanding.

She says, "Next time, I'll make sure Nick tells you sooner."

I reply, "I didn't even know you had plans until I saw your post."

Okay, so I didn't do what Nick asked, exactly, but I am also a firm believer if you make a mistake, you admit it and blaming someone else or LETTING someone else take the blame for it is 110% w-r-o-n-g!

When I got to work this morning, Nick texts me.

"Can I hang out with her on Sunday?" (guess she made sure I had pleeenty of notice THIS time)

I reply, "Probably. Will she be coming to our house?" (now I already know the response)

"Can I go there?" Ahh, just the response I was expecting - now this girl is going to avoid me like the plague.


At work, I'm sitting there, thinking, 'Okay, I think it would be really funny to be super nice to this girl, and see what she does. I think I will invite her to make Christmas cookies with me, just so she can say, "Ummm, NO!"'

Am I evil or what?