So, as stated in my previous blog, Nick is dating someone who is a bad seed. I don't know if she knows I know WHY she is a bad seed, but Nick told me about her past when they first started dating.
Without going into detail, I will say, that she had a horrible, horrible childhood and no child should EVER EVER have to go through what she has endured. I am sympathetic to her story. My heart breaks for her. But, when I think she is going to bring my son down the drain with her, I have to put my mind ABOVE my heart. Protecting Nick and his future is the only thing that matters!
So, as you all recall I was going to invite her to bake Christmas cookies, just so she would turn me down and I'd have a score 1 for me trying to be nice. Sunday night I sent her a pm on facebook and she answered with a big fat Y-E-S! Okay, well not exactly, but she's coming.
My reaction after reading that surprised me...I'm actually excited for this little get together. I don't know what happened from the time I deviously conjured up this exceptional plan, but the second I saw it backfired, I was nothing less than...happy.
Okay, let's look at the facts here...If I'm thinking correctly, Nick hasn't ever stayed with anyone as long as this one. She obviously cares about Nick because she immediately sent me an apology when Nick yelled at her for her comment about me on facebook. She obviously needs some guidance in her life and maybe, just maybe, I can be that person. (did I just say that?)
Yes, yes, I did, because you know what, maybe her accepting my invitation is her reaching out. I know she doesn't have a mother she can go to, and after what happened to her growing up, I doubt she really trusts anyone, so maybe, I can have an impact on this girl and actually help her.
Am I dreaming?
Am I reaching?
Am I setting myself up for disappointment?
Perhaps, but isn't it the season for miracles?
The perpetual dilema
14 years ago
Keren, just because she's had a rough beginning, that doesn't really mean she's going to be terrible for him. I mean, my mom had a HORRILBE childhood. She was raised completely without morals. Nick is a very smart boy and has pretty smart parents who are pretty darn with it. Maybe cut her break until she proves otherwise? Plus, Nick would totally notice and appreciate it. :)
ReplyDeleteKim, I HAVE cut her a break. There are several things that have happened BESIDES her nasty facebook comment that have me feeling the way I do about her. Believe me, I'm not judging her from her past, I'm judging the way she treats Nick, and the trouble she has started for him.
ReplyDeleteKim, get your Ka/eren's straight! :P
ReplyDeleteKAren, I think it might be one of those things that you don't like but ends up being something pretty good for everyone. God has a sense of humor.